Married Guy Question (Others Welcome Too)

[Cactus Jack]

[GooperMC]

[WildBillHickok]

I lean toward a combinations of 1, 2 and 3 (it depends on the Y) ... if you do 1 ALL the time, she starts losing respect for you. Over several years, she has lost a lot of respect for you, and very well may have a lawyer waiting in the corner in the near future.

If you say strongly, you don't like being TOLD or ordered, you much prefer being asked, and then say NO to the request, yes, she'll get mad...but deep down she'll respect you. (You can't give away your self respect for someone else, even if it is your wife.) Always she will respect you. You maintain most of the control of the relationship. 40% is up to you, 30% her, and 30% compromise.

So i'd go with 1 on small things, sometimes.
2 very little,
3 most of the time, but in a firm then silent manner.

And always, as in poker, learn humility and put a damper on your ego. Yes, it's a paradox.

But what the heck do I know...relationships are tough for me.

This could well be one TOUGH riddle.

[GreaterThanU]

[T-Rod]

Wow, some excellent posts. Emmasmom even chimed in (wow thanks).

The Y I was referring to was pretty much small stuff. For me, this is the first time I've ever lived with a woman which has roomate type issues as well relationship issues.

I usually go for option 1 and if it starts to bug me, move to option 3.

I totally agree that you have to pick and choose your battles.

I totally agree that if you avoid too many battles and just cave in too much, it will start to bother you in a big way so you should discuss it.

I really liked K3nt's idea of mentioning it, but at a later time so there's no crisis escalation.

I think option 3 is really the best, the real trick though is to come up with a form of communication that is effective and doesn't lead to fight escalation, etc.

[Jarren]

[Bosox1]

[iceman5]

[Pok 7's]

[NorthView]

[MecosKing]

[Cactus Jack]