by Cactus Jack » Mon Feb 20, 2006 7:34 am
And we'll be racing to lock it. How sad is that? The beauty of Internet forums is they are truly color-blind. And they should remain that way.
How I would love to see a time in this country when Seb's words were not inflammatory. When we actually didn't even NOTICE a black man did something for the first time, that it was not a big deal. I hope your generation can accomplish what my generation has not, but I have very little hope of it.
Race relations is a touchy subject in this country, to say the least. You can tell the absolute truth and just saying it can get you branded as a racist. Nothing can get you hated faster than being right about color, any color, any side of the equation. I'm tap dancing on thin ice just making this post.
Imus said, "why is it that minorities are given a pass when it comes to making fun of them?"
He's right, but he catches hell for it.
Chris Rock was absolutely on the money, but apologizes for saying it.
Bill Cosby is hated by many in his own community, even though he was dead on target. He gets huge points from me for not backing down. (Although he's been quiet since, which disappoints me, greatly.)
No white person in this country could say publicly what either Mr. Rock or Mr. Cosby said. He'd be branded a racist. They told the truth and were roundly criticized. Imagine what the President would get if he said the same thing? A candidate would never survive.
Nothing will change in this country until there is a time when honesty is rewarded and the truth is acknowledged, on BOTH sides.
Blacks must stop playing the victim.
Whites must stop being afraid of blacks.
There has been much movement toward this in my lifetime, but not enough. How many more lifetimes will it take?
When it comes to racism, it's too often a black/white issue. Why is that?
How many groups of people have been discriminated against? Catholics, Irish, Chinese, Italians, Japanese. Our history can be traced by how each group was treated, yet all of these have overcome it. Except one.
There is blame to go around on both sides, yet neither is fully willing to accept any blame at all. Whites accept a little, but stop when it's not rewarded with understanding from the other side.
I make a personal admission. I am very bitter about my attitudes changing over the past three decades. I have more negative feelings about African-Americans now than I did 30 years ago. How much does that suck? Seriously. Believe me when I say this...It's NOT MY FAULT. I'm outraged that it's happened and angry that I couldn't stop it.
I have always had black friends, from childhood up to the present. This isn't one of those b.s. white guy things of "some of my best friends are black." No, I mean people I really, really like who just happen to be black. Yet my feelings toward the race have changed and not through any conscious decision or fears of black people moving in next door, or taking my job, or marrying my daughter. There are times I'm afraid of black guys who may steal my money or shoot me in a robbery. If it didn't happen, and it absolutely DOES happen, too often. I understand the news business. I know when something is sensationalized and when it's commonplace. 1 out of 5 black men between 18 and 30 have a felony record. That's fact. I would not bet my life on 4:1. But, I'm not afraid of the whole race of African-Americans. That's ridiculous and ignorant.
The question that should be understood is why did this change in my attitude happen? Would this have happened had Dr. King not been murdered? I can only hope it would not have. His death might have been the death of any greater progress we may have made in the years since. Time has been the only thing that has improved our relationship. Time and political correctness, believe it or not. PC, in this case, has slowly seaped into the conscience of all white Americans, even the most ardently racist white Americans. The proof is you would never, ever now hear even the most devoutly pro-white/anti-black bigot say what he's actually thinking to a group with a black in it. The asshole may say it in a group of white guys--I hear this and I hate it and want to smack him in his stupid face--but I never hear it when there is a black guy there. So, while I really hate PC, I have to give it some credit when due.
I have ZERO, absolutely NO other emotional feelings about this subject, other than disgust, disappointment and distrust of anyone who expresses nothing more than feelings, thoughts and arguments with only one side ever spoken, and loudly at that. That goes for white guys as well as black guys. I can overlook my anger at how my attitudes have shifted negatively and look at the issue with cold logic, but I'm a rare bird in this case. Most have nothing but emotion when the subject is discussed, IF it is ever discussed because for the most part, white people absolutely dread having to confront it.
I'm disgusted at feeling immediately afraid of what might happened when Seb made his first post. He said nothing wrong, yet I was afraid of what he was saying and how people might interpret it. That was wrong of me. I should have trusted him. That shows how really deep the problem is.
I am unfortunately too bold. I have had this conversation many times with both white and black. Too often with nothing to show for it. When I meet someone of either color who says, "you may be right," I'm knocked over. If I ever meet anyone who says, "I may be wrong," I'll be ready to meet my maker, as like Diogenes, I've met an honest man.
And this is absolutely ALL I'm going to say on this subject, as I'm sure I'll be harshly criticized for this rant. Anything else I would express, no doubt, would be received even worse. And that's despicable. I'm an idiot for saying anything at all, but I'm to a point where I simply don't care anymore who likes me or who doesn't just because I'll be honest about this subject. My black friends understand, and so do my white friends. That's why they are my friends. That's good enough for me.
I grew up in the South. Lived in the North. Have seen every side of this, and over the course of my lifetime have seen great changes and not enough. I remember seeing "For Whites Only" signs. I watched the marches and heard the hate from my own people. I have cried when I heard Dr. King's speech in Washington. I cried from the poetry and emotion and I cried at the loss of such an incredible man. I've been bitterly disappointed at both black and white. I'm sorry I may not live to see the words of Dr. King come true.
If there ever came a time when Bill Cosby and say Jeff Foxworthy, or Al Sharpton and Billy Graham, could stand side-by-side on a stage and were able to rip into people of their own color or the other color with equal vigor, then, I truly believe, you would see an immediate and substantial improvement in the relations between the races in this country. As Lennon said, "Imagine..."
Otherwise, we can only pray that time will heal all wounds.
"I see things as they are and ask 'why'? I see things as they should be and ask, 'why not'?" John F. Kennedy
"Are the players better as the stakes go up? It's not an exam; it's a buyin." Barry Tanenbaum