assuming you know the rules and basics like what is a fork.
>websites?
there's nothing remotely close to btp out there in terms of community. the chess world is full of untalented know-it-alls, it's really annoying.
http://chess.emrald.net/ is a sweet site for tactics problems.
>books?
The Amateur's Mind is a good strategy primer; teaches you how to actually play chess. also, any book called 'The Amateur's Mind' is clearly a must-have.
Logical Chess by Irving Chernev is a collection of annotated games that is supposed to be great for new players.
>general tips?
spend the most study time on tactics. least on openings.
yahoo and FICS are free servers that let you keep a rating. there are some pay sites like ICC (biggest) and playchess (best interface) that have more features that you might wanna check out.
you can download winboard and a free engine like fruit or crafty for going over your games. the evaluations they spit out are kind of cryptic but they find tactics instantly which is useful.
also, the well-known Dortmund Super GM tournament is going on right now. - the website has a live games link. check it out for sweet draw-tastic action.