by Cactus Jack » Sun Dec 11, 2005 8:39 am
Very good points, guys, and all completely correct. Much of the "common wisdom" is correct. I'm just saying don't take it so literally that you are afraid to take some chances, for learning how to take chances and recover from losses, I believe, is also part of a poker player's education.
Yes, I have learned a lot this year. Yes, I'll be several times better next year, as long as I press the edges of the envelope. There's an old saying, "Do you have ten years' experience, or one year ten times?" It's very important to continue to build upon what you learn. The mental side of the game comes along more slowly, I believe, because we focus on the hands and the physical side, because it's quantitative and understandable. The mental side isn't measurable and doesn't appear to be easily understood. But, it's just as important, and most likely more important as one moves higher and higher in stakes. Everyone who plays the big games is a tough poker player. The ones who consistently win are the ones who are the most mentally tough. You can only get this way by willing to take big risks, winning some and losing many. The game is the same when played for nickels and dimes as it is for hundreds and thousands, but it's also very different as the stakes mean a lot more.
You simply must be able to withstand the thought you could go broke.
Finally, you all are correct about the pros borrowing from each other. Sure, they do it. But they wouldn't be able to had they not been through it over and over again. You gain the most when you have something to lose. If they hadn't lost before, they wouldn't be good enough for people to have confidence that no matter whether they win or lose again, they'll be back and their investment in the player is secure. Steel is made but putting iron under heat and pressure. The way we are advised to play the game doesn't put much pressure on us. It's designed to relieve the stress. I'm suggesting this does us less good than it would appear. No strain, not enough gain.
Again, this isn't for everyone. It's not for most. But for those of us who must, we must learn to conquer our fears. The only way to do that is to face them, and overcome losing, learn how it feels, learn it isn't the end of the world, and come back stronger than before.
CJ
"Are the players better as the stakes go up? It's not an exam; it's a buyin." Barry Tanenbaum